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Our
days are numbered. At this very moment, many thousands
are born into the world, some destined to live only a few
days or weeks, and then tragically succumb to illness or
other misfortune. Others are destined to push through to
the century mark, perhaps even a bit beyond, and savor every
taste life has to offer: triumph, despair, joy, hatred,
and love. We never know. But whether we live a day or a
century, a central question always remains: What
is the purpose of our life?
According to the Dalai Lama, the purpose of
our existence is to seek happiness.
Happiness
is our birthright as human beings. There is no
doubt that life can be difficult—living in today’s
world is not always easy. But despite life’s inevitable
problems and challenges, genuine happiness is still possible—and
The Art of Happiness books, tapes, and workshops can help
show us the way to find the lasting happiness we all seek.
The
Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living was a groundbreaking
collaboration between H.H. the 14th Dalai Lama, and Howard
C. Cutler, M.D., a Phoenix-based psychiatrist. Beginning
with a small first printing in 1998 the book rapidly spread
by word of mouth to become a classic manual on human happiness.
The book remained on The New York Times bestseller
list for almost two years, and has become a source
of help and inspiration to millions of readers throughout
the world. Responding to the requests by readers, the Dalai
Lama and Dr. Cutler followed this book with another volume
in 2003, their second New York Times bestseller, titled
The Art of Happiness at Work.
Drawing
upon 2500 years of Buddhist wisdom, combined with the latest
findings of modern science, and mixed with a healthy
dose of common sense, these remarkable volumes offer a practical
approach to human happiness—a rational approach that
can be practiced by individuals from any background,
tradition, or religion.
There
are many facets to leading a happy life. It begins by understanding
the true and legitimate sources of happiness. The Art of
Happiness is based on a few basic premises:
1. |
The
purpose of life is happiness. |
2. |
Happiness
is determined more by the state of one’s mind
than by one’s external conditions, circumstances,
or events—at least once one’s basic survival
needs are met. |
3. |
Happiness
can be achieved through the systematic training of our
hearts and minds, through reshaping our attitudes and
outlook. |
4. |
The
key to happiness is in our own hands. |
Starting
with these fundamental principles, the books continue with
an in depth investigation of human happiness. The
Art of Happiness offers a variety of techniques to help
overcome the destructive mental states that are
the source of much of our misery—mental states such
as anger, hatred, greed, jealousy, discouragement and fear.
Through
the lively conversations between the Dalai Lama and Dr,
Cutler recounted in these books, supplemented with
engaging stories, case histories, practical exercises and
supporting scientific evidence, the books present strategies
to deal more effectively with the inevitable problems of
daily life.
The
Art of Happiness Workshops, offered in cities throughout
the US by Dr. Cutler, a Board Certified psychiatrist,
are based largely on The Art of Happiness books, but supplemented
with additional techniques and exercises drawn from recent
developments in the science of human happiness, and the
emerging field of Positive Psychology. The workshops
are designed to help participants apply The Art of Happiness
principles and practices to their own daily lives,
with the result of leading lives of greater personal satisfaction
and fulfillment.
The
idea that the purpose of our existence is to seek happiness
seems like common sense, and Western thinkers from Aristotle
to William James have agreed with this idea. But
isn't a life based on seeking personal happiness by nature
self-centered, even self-indulgent? Not necessarily.
In fact, survey after survey has shown that it is unhappy
people who tend to be most self-focused, even selfish, and
are often socially withdrawn, brooding, and even antagonistic.
Happy
people, in contrast, are generally found to be more sociable,
flexible, creative, more successful in mating, better parents,
and are able to tolerate life's daily frustrations more
easily than unhappy people. And, most important, they are
found to be more loving and forgiving than unhappy people.
In fact, scientific evidence has conclusively established
an inextricable link between personal happiness
and kindness and compassion toward others.
Researchers
have devised some interesting experiments demonstrating
that happy people exhibit a certain quality of
openness, a willingness to reach out and help others. They
managed, for instance, to induce a happy mood in a test
subject by arranging to have the person unexpectedly find
money in a phone booth. Posing as a stranger, one of the
experimenters then walked by and "accidentally"
dropped a load of papers. The investigators wanted to see
whether the subject would stop to help the stranger.
In
another scenario, the subjects' spirits were lifted by listening
to a comedy album, and then they were approached by someone
in need (also in cahoots with the experimenter) wanting
to borrow money. The investigators discovered that
the subjects who were feeling happy were more likely
to help someone or to lend money than another "control
group” of individuals who were presented with the
same opportunity to help but whose mood had not been boosted
ahead of time.
We
begin, then, with the basic premise that the purpose of
our life is to seek happiness. It is a vision of happiness
as a real objective, one that we can take positive steps
toward achieving. And as we begin to identify the
factors that lead to a happier life, we will learn
how the search for happiness offers benefits not only for
the individual but for the individual’s family and
for society at large as well.
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